How to Attract What You Want

We have the power to create anything we want in this life. So many people have doubts, fears, old limiting beliefs that hinder them from achieving their full potential. Stuff like "I can't do that." "I don't deserve that." "Why would anyone appreciate that?" "They'll make fun of me." Well the easiest way to get out of that rut is to quiet those thoughts in your head, because that's what they are. "Just thoughts." How do you know those are true? How have you come to let these thoughts make your decisions in your daily lives? What are you holding for your future if you can't get passed the initial scare? The key to erase all this mental garbage is to realize "it's just a thought and thoughts can be changed."
Thoughts are energy. We have so much potential within us, yet we are afraid of what we are really capable of. One of my favorite quotes is from Marianne Williamson and it goes something like "Our biggest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our biggest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure." (there's more to it but I'll include it at the end of this post)
Wow! When I first heard that, that made total sense. I could relate to that because that's what I thought! That I wasn't good enough. And I kept myself from my full potential. I saw everyone happy around me and was envious because I was concentrating on the negatives in life and thought "well life isn't always pretty fluffly smelly roses all the time!" and put a block to my own happiness. I created a stink in my roses. I stopped myself from being happy! I felt I didn't deserve it! I did that to ME! I laugh now thinking that and at the time I was being too serious over-analyzing everything. How is that loving yourself? If you love someone, don't you want what's best for them? Well then, if you love yourself, don't you want what's best for you? The most crucial vital ingredient to your happiness is your relationship with yourself. That's how you attract good outside relationships. They say you can't love anyone unless you can love yourself. And it's true. How do you treat your love when you are so hard on yourself? Are you hard on them? Like attracts like. We treat people how we treat ourselves. Relationships are our best teachers.
The important thing I learned in one of my seminars I went to recently is that those negative emotions don't exist. They only have as much emphasis as you put on them. They seem like more work and heavier energy. They are only created by your inner reality (thoughts) which manifests beliefs which impact your decisions, which then affect others and which then creates what you don't want - a negative response from others. Your thoughts (energy) create your reality. If you focus on the negative "heavy" emotions, you will create "dis-ease" - It stems from a fear-based mentality. On the other hand, the good, and the "light" energy are "ease" - They come effortlessly. It stems from a love-based mentality. And that's exactly what I felt. I felt tired all the time, that something was always wrong in my life, that I felt dissatisfied. But another important thing I learned was: "What you focus on expands." Wow! Did that ever create a lightbulb moment in my head... Ah-ha! Duh..... It makes me laugh just thinking about it. How foolish it seems and how easy it is to just think of the negative and CREATE MORE negative! If only I switched my way of thinking to positive (because there is always a polar opposite to energy)- appreciation/gratitude/joy/love/trust/awareness/acceptance/understanding/compassion/peace, I will CREATE MORE positive! And how easy is that??! Well, I can just say that once you have worn out and torn your negative emotions to shreds just dwelling on being unhappy to the point that it is drilling you miserable, I thought I've had enough.... I wanted to change!!!!! So..... Easy - I just switched my thoughts. If I wanted to create more positive things in my life, and to attract good people, and to create a better job, and to be happy..... That's what I had to be. And I had to appreciate what I had in my life to attract more of it. That's the way Law of Attraction works. What you focus on, expands..... Negative draws in negativity. Positive draws in positivity. You dwell on your problems, you just create more of them. You worry you don't have enough money, well guess what? You don't. You are always creating unwanted circumstances and taking on an outside world victim mentality. Well guess what? You are not a victim. You are an inner victim to your own well-being. A lot of times we look outside ourselves to make us happy (material possesions and people), but where happiness comes from is inside ourselves. Only we have the power to heal ourselves through our state of mind and our energy.
I have learned the concept of appreciation and gratitude. If we are appreciative of what we have and are thankful to the universe for giving it to us, we will attract more of what we have. For example: When you are in a loving mode, and you freely give your love to your love, you create love, don't you? When you are in an angry mode, and take your anger out on someone else, do you make them angry? Sure. You can't brighten a room by arguing against the darkness, you make the room brighter by turning on the light.
This energy concept I have also come to realize is the basic law of Law of Attraction. You have your highs and lows, and like I said, there are no lows, there are only highs. We are the highs, that's the truth. It's the only way. Sure, everyone feels sad/mad/depressed/hatred/greed/envy/lack/guilt sometimes. But there is always an underlying truth in your subconscious to why you are feeling that way. The truth is the light to your darkness. It is the bridge to your gap between lows ----> highs. The best thing to do in that situation is to acknowledge the way you are feeling - and comfort your inner child within telling it it is ok to feel that way. At times we tend to over-analyze and get so wrapped up in our thoughts that we worry about we "should" do. (BTW, there are no "shoulds" in life. There is no rulebook stating that that's how it "should" be in Section 123 on Page 457. What works for someone else, might not work for you, and vice versa.) Don't be so hard on yourself. We're all human beings. We don't necessarily have to do anything if we don't know what to do. After all, we are not human doings, we are human beings. That was another concept that stuck with me. We are human beings. So just "BE" in the moment, in the foginess, in the haze, and in time, it will pass..... The bridge between that place is your vulnerability to be truthful to yourself of how you're feeling, and be easy on yourself "Ease = easy"... Accept yourself. Everything is perfect. Everything is brought to you at the right time and sequence in life. Everything you ever feel hatred towards, or guilty about, let it go. It is in the past and there is nothing you can do about that now. It's gone. The universe doesn't remember it. It only responds to NOW. So be who you want to be RIGHT NOW. Flush your old limiting beliefs that is prohibiting you from reaching your full potential. This is the only time for you to create what you want. Savour this moment and acknowledge how you feel. If you want to be a certain way, act it. BELIEVE it. BE it. The universe will respond to your thoughts and feelings. The more you practice who you want to be, the more you will become into that being. And talk yourself through it when you hear your old voice coming up with excuses or fears. Training the mind is the most crucial step in achieving awareness. Rome wasn't built in a day.
The universe acts quickly (believe me -- to the good and the bad!) As soon as I started practicing this stuff after becoming so fed up with being miserable, complaining, and negative, I was so convinced that I wanted to be a different person. I hated the way I was feeling!!!! That is the first initial sign - if you don't like the way you are feeling, change it! It seems so easy, but some people have such trouble with it because they are stuck in their old limiting beliefs! What you feel has EVERYTHING to do with what you attract. You are not going to attract Prince Charming being Medusa.

On the fear of Excellence

"Our biggest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant,
or gorgeous
or talented
or fabulous?

Actually, who are you NOT to be?
You are a child of God.
You playing small doesn't serve the world.
There's nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It's not just in some of us; it's in every one of us.
And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our fear of our own excellence,
our presence automatically liberates others.
And excellence becomes the standard of all our lives."

From A Return to Love, by Marianne Williamson

Actualities

Aug 31

All these things I thought I wanted
Are right beneath me
But yet I can't seem to want to take hold
My beliefs are changing
My ways and acts have come a full circle
I am not the same person
I used to be

Abundance is there if you look really closely
You will see You have
What you need
The universe provides for all that we ask for
Even if we're not consciously aware
We're asking for it
Our thoughts are so powerful
It's Energy, Beyond Measure
So many amazing things have been happening to me lately.
One after another, a series of events
I am only aware of them now.
I have come to the alignment with myself,
My soul, my body, my Mind, The Universe.
What we ask for.
Is what we'll get.
We have to become aware of or thoughts.
They are what create our reality, so be careful what you believe.
Our view, what we come to believe, is all an inner manifestation of our thoughts.
What we experience, is a reflection of what we believe.
Our reactions to events
Is an outward manifestation of our inner reality.
Our thoughts and beliefs are an outward hologram.
What we perceive is what we have believed through time.

Well, the time is Up!!!!

The time is NOW and you have an opportunity to change the way you think, how you perceive, and what you believe about the events and the people around you.

Love

Today I found out that an old friend of mine went missing. For a second, I could relate noting that I once felt like “running away,” a means to escape from reality, into a deeper and dark secretive yet mysterious reality we have never known yet are so anxious to experience a better world out there. I'm sure everyone has felt like this at some point in their lives. Whether you're 6, or 16, or 26, or 46... I don't think age has anything to do with this behavior. I think the more we feel like acting on our emotions, the more we learn the consequences of our actions and it gets easier to manage our feelings as we learn to talk ourselves out of it.
I have had my heart broken, and it sucks. It feels like you really can't go on, that there is nothing really to live for, that a piece of YOU is missing... And I started to wonder.... Is that necessarily a bad thing??!
Love is the strongest emotion of all. What is love then, when you love someone, and you feel you have everything to give them? What is so bad about thinking of them as your world and can't wait to see them? That the thing you're doing every minute with joy is that joy they bring to you when you think of them? What is so bad about KNOWING that you have finally found someone that makes your heart skip a beat and the only thoughts you have are of the two of you enjoying to no extent the endless possibilities that lie in the two of yous' future? I mean, once you KNOW something, it's hard for other people to make a judment that you don't... Once you KNOW something, it's hard to get to explain to someone else how you FEEL about that person. They just don't understand because they can't FEEL the same feelings as you. Feelings are not explanatory... They are just felt, and are real. And my feelings have led me into every area of my life. They are my guidance. It's hard to go against your feelings, even if your mind rationalizes every little instance and nuiance and every little detail and nook and corner and cranny... It just doesn't all add up to the way you're FEELING. Feelings and logic are two separate planets... Although one is usually held higher for a person. Logic is explaining and weighing things out and making sense of it all.... Your thoughts can change, but your heart doesn't.... You can think anything your thoughts allow you to believe if you have control over them.... But your heart doesn't lie....Your thoughts just help you move on.... But a piece of your heart will always be with the one(s) that you loved.....
After relating to this story and being inspired to come to the terms of my own inner alignment/self realization by experience, I'm kind of wary now on what love is... I mean, if you don't get the feelings of all the above mentioned while in love, then what is it? And how hard do you fall? And what do you hold back to tell someone how you feel about them? I guess you can fall deeply in love but fall deeply for the wrong person. It just has to be an equal amount of give and take to have the same level of love flowing back and forth. You have to speak the same love language.... You have to give and know when to receive.... You have to receive and know when to give.... But most important of it all, is that you don't lose the LOVE for yourself that you once had that got lost along the way of your journey.... So you don't get burned out... So you save some for yourself and know when to give to yourself when you're not getting back.... Like this instance.... And my instance(s) I've had.... that have led to my distraught phases from the lack of love I had for myself.... But eventually we always will replenish ourselves.... It's just a learning process of realizing when we are empty..... And it'll always come.... We'll know and feel when that is...We just have to be patient.....
Love and Light!!!
Karla :)